Well done for posting here, you will find support from people who really do understand. We certainly know the difference between being bereaved and being divorced – I have done both.
It is sad that your friend didn’t think to ask how you and your children were coping, but I am afraid that over the years since I lost Ken I have come across many such people.
Remember you can always come here for support, I credit MW and all the wonderful people here for getting me through the awful early years.
Jenny K xx