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Topic: falling
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Pat
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falling
Not even a roller coaster at the moment - just going down and down and down as it hits me harder and harder that my beautiful husband really isn't ever going to come back. Six months since his death and most people seem to assume that I'm working my way out of it, "getting over it". Nothing could be further from the truth. It feels as if I shall just fall down for ever.
Posted on 08/02/2010 at 23:44 |
barbara
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Re: falling
Am in bed, not sleeping. Know what you are feeling, Pat. It will be two years for me next month. Didn't know just how far anyone could fall. don't think getting over it is a possibility. Enduring it, putting up with it, suffering it - well thats probably nearer the truth, but believing it and imagining a future without him is so hard that i keep living in the past where he was, where we were a we, not just a me. Sorry, am so tired. just wish I could sleep xxx
Posted on 09/02/2010 at 04:02 |
Bev D
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Re: falling
Hi Pat
I know that feeling. At 6 months my world also started to collapse. It was then that I went for counselling, which helped me feel okay about feeling so low! It also gave me tools to cope with the down moments and it gave me encouragement to walk this road at my own pace.
Nobody has the right to tell you when it's time to "get out of it". You have to just keep working at it - bit by bit. I don't know if we ever get out of it but I do know that it does get better!
I'm at 14 months and I still have those moments when it feels as if the rollercoaster is on a downward spiral. Great thing is that it does come out of it again. I hope that you find the way to move out of your "pit".
Be blessed.
Bev
Posted on 09/02/2010 at 06:00 |
Pauline in France
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Re: falling
Sending you a hug, Pat. I know how tough it feels to fall down the pit--we all do. Bev's advice is sound. i think learning the tools to cope with the bad times will help. i wish now I'd stayed in the UK longer and sought counselling
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