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Topic: Soul searching is it part of the process?
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joanna
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Soul searching is it part of the process?
Just been reflecting and think that I soul search far too much these days
I am thinking it is part of the process of what has happened and wonder
1. how to stop or 2. does it just fade away when we feel some resolve
Although I am over 2 years now and the time has gone so quickly the past couple of weeks have been quite evil and have been blaming pmt, full moon, the long winter etc
Interested to know what others think
thanks as always
Posted on 09/03/2010 at 15:55 |
SueS
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Re: Soul searching is it part of the process?
Hi Joanna
I am with you on this one as I am also 2yrs plus.
I can spend time just thinking and before I know an hour has passed.
And yes I have had some grotty days just lately.
Just when I thought I had found some inner peace - bang - there it is again.
But having said that I know I am a lot better than I used to be and I know these grotty days will pass.
What a horrific journey!!!
By coming on this site we can realise that we are not alone - thank goodness.
Love and hugs to you Joanna
Posted on 09/03/2010 at 16:34 |
Elizabeth Anne
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Re: Soul searching is it part of the process?
Hello Joanna
Me too.I am three years in may and still do it.
I think I am still trying to make sense of it,but it never makes sense.How could it?
For me,the soul searching is a way of trying to put some order and purpose into my life.
Havent suceeded yet ,keep getting trapped in other peoples disasters,but maybe one day.
I know the wise thing is to live in the present,but isnt it hard not to live in the memories of the happier past and dread
the uncertain future .
Yes I do think the long,cold winter hasnt helped.I dont remember being this miserable last winter.
But then again Ive been looking after my mentally ill son for all of this winter and trying to make sense of that too.
Soul searching is all we have when we realise no-one else has the answers for us.Then we realise we dont have them either,no wonder we go round in so many circles!
Elizabeth Anne xxx
Posted on 09/03/2010 at 17:50 |
sarah f
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Re: Soul searching is it part of the process?
Hi Joanna,
I think soul searching is an inevitable part of the process. I liken the grieving to peeling the layers off an onion - you take one layer offand deal with that and then another one appears to deal with.
As well as losing our husbands we also lose our identity and a large part of what previously defined us so I think we are bound to navel gaze quite a lot!
Posted on 09/03/2010 at 22:13 |
Jules from Oz
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Re: Soul searching is it part of the process?
2 years plus here.dont need to say any more than 'me too'
Posted on 09/03/2010 at 22:59 |
Lisa K
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Re: Soul searching is it part of the process?
Hi, Joanna,
I am at 2 1/2 years and soul-searching, 'Who am I?' takes up a lot of my grief work time. It feels like a very worthwhile endeavor. I have found a lot of insight in the book The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer--that is if you need more to think about in all those hours of pondering. I write what I am thinking so I have 'light-bulb' moments of enlightenment nearly every day. I wonder how long this stage of grief will last and what will be next???
Posted on 10/03/2010 at 02:48 |
PipsG
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Re: Soul searching is it part of the process?
I'm at 2.5 years and am at the soul searching stage too. I thought it was just me - glad to hear it's not....
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