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Topic: Sleep Help

Markt

Sleep Help

Hi All,
Not posted for a little while but have been sharing your pain.

A while ago i posted asking for help sleeping. I have found something that I would like to share with you, which has given me 3 straight night of 7 hours.

If i had been told about this before Sandra had died I would not have tried it but given the appalling sleepless nights we all suffer and trying to do a full time job i have been open to any suggestion that would help.

My very dear MW (of 3 years) friend pointed me in the direction of meditation and found some online lessons of Edgar Cayce. I used his very simple breathing and focusing exercises on You Tube lessons 1 to 4 (all quite short). Coupled with removing caffine from fizzy drinks as well I have had these amazing results.

Just in case you would like to try them thought i would post.

Reading your posts tonight i want to pass you all stregnth, cyber hugs and love xxx

Posted on 21/10/2011 at 22:46

gab

Re: Sleep Help

I have also found meditation a real help.

there is a site which was posted a long time ago called meditation oasis( won't do all the www stuff) and they have podcasts to listen to - acouple in particular for grief.

Also if really into it if you go to the website of Deepak chopra you will find some lovely, peaceful ideas.

anything that helps!!!.....

Posted on 21/10/2011 at 23:04

karenb

Re: Sleep Help

Hi Markt
Nice to hear from you and that you are getting a good sleep my ideas did not work it was the telly and lavender but i am glad you have found a way you can sleep because that is what we all need to help us through this horrible journey to get strengh to face the next day. Hope you feel rested take care.Karenb xx

Posted on 21/10/2011 at 23:59

karenb

Re: Sleep Help

karen b

Re: Sleep Help

Sorry pressed the button twice operator error think i need sleep myself xx

Posted on 22/10/2011 at 00:15

Dave C

Re: Sleep Help

Hi Markt
You helped me so I have tried the going to the gym try to right my self out
Next week I finish th Kitchen took time out came home from work crawled onto sofa fell asleep till 2.0 then cleaned the bathroom . Do now believe this is a living nightmare you have to live for the kids I have 4 how would they feel living like we do.
Sorry gone off on one I know go to sleep curled up with Sues nightie around her pillow at her side of the bed and it still takes all the covers

Best of luck sleeping mate sarnies in a box near the door see we all help one another.

Night Night
Hugs and kisses to you all out there x x

Posted on 22/10/2011 at 00:25

Markt

Re: Sleep Help

Thank you all for your replies.

Karen b i had limited success with the lavender oil. Tried it in a variety of ways, just on pillow and then a foot massage another time. I guess it works differently for me. I don't watch tv at all these days it does not absorb my thoughts enough.

Gab
There is so much stuff on the net it is really helpful to be pointed in direction of something you have found useful. Thank you for those pointers. A bit like a car, i don't know why it works, am just releived it does.

Sandwhich Dave C
Mate i have come to a couple of conclusions about this crap we are going through.
1) I am desperate to help others, i have an overwhelming desire to stop others suffering the way we all have
2) There is no shortcut to this grieving process and we have to go through it, A short cut would not be any good long term. MW's have to have this pain of grief, and their is nothing i could do to prevent that pain anyway. In much the same way i could not, no matter what i did, stop Sandra from dieing.
3) My most important comclusion is that the best i can do is to be there for people when they hit the depths and need help coming out of it. To comfort them, hold them and encourage them to face another hour, another day. Being there for others i think is the most important thing to help them with this blooody awful journey.

I too use Sandras clothes but don't loose the fight with the covers! I find it really comforting to do that.

Getting to the gym - well done and try to keep at it but make sure you get some enjoyment from it as well. Very good for getting rid of aggression as well. I am knocking 7 bells out of tennis balls still.

The kids are sheilded from the effects of my grief and have no idea of the real effects on me. Yes we cry together but they are unaware of the darkest thoughts we post on this site. It would be unfair to show them the pain i am in, they have enough of their own to cope with without my burden.

This war to survive has many battles. Finishing your kitchen will be a battle well won and you deserve a medal for doing it.

I am proud of you and so is your dear Sues, you should have no doubts about that.

Love hugs and stregnth to you all xxx

ps I live on the South East coast. If anyone feels like a bee/coffeer and a chat we will arrange something.

Posted on 22/10/2011 at 07:05

dave/val

Re: Sleep Help

good to hear from you mark, family coping ok. never had much trouble sleeping probably night shift helps,can manage on 5 or six hours. sounds like this meditation could help others though mate. good news on daves kitchen, finishing it next week. are we all invited dave, kitchen warming party. he'd probably forget to make sarnies hey mark. you all take care.big hug from big trucker dave.

Posted on 22/10/2011 at 11:55