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Topic: 6 years widowed & grieving again
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vicky
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6 years widowed & grieving again
My husband died suddenly 6 years ago now and since the end of last year, I've been missing him terribly again. Nothing in my new life has changed but I seem to be crying daily, can't get enthusiastic about anything etc. During the week I go to work so have something to focus on but I've spent the last few weekends in bed.
Has anyone else futther along on this journey experienced this as it's not like me to be so down.
Thanks
Vicky
Posted on 04/02/2012 at 22:50 |
Pam
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Re: 6 years widowed & grieving again
Hi Vicky,
I will be at 6 years come May and sometimes are better than others, we will never get over losing the ones we love. I dont know what to say to you except to let you know that you are not alone with the feelings you are having. We cant love someone so much to be able to stop loving them.
Take care.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 00:06 |
Judi
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Re: 6 years widowed & grieving again
Sending my love Vicky.
I am only at 3 years 5 months (nearly) and I have good and bad days. Last week I cried the the way to work and back home again and at home. Felt so isolated and I dont know why....... Since then I've felt better.
I sometimes feel under pressure to move on but I have decided not to be rushed and I don't think I will ever get over my loss.
Wai really hope you hav a better few days and that we all here can continue to support each other no matter what point of the journey we are at.
With love
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 08:43 |
Suzanne H
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Re: 6 years widowed & grieving again
Hello Vicky,
I am at just at over 3 and a half years.
My husband died suddenly too....one minute talking to us and then just fell over dead.
My 2 girls and I battle on through each day and try to get on with life. I am afraid it is difficult....sometimes we seem to cope and at other times we fall in a heap.
Don't feel bad that at 6 years you are sad again.I think that it will be like this for a long time to come.One minute up and the next down.
That is why this site is so good, you can visit it whenever you like and find someone who is going through the same thing as you.
As they say, this is my story,only the names have changed.
Sending you a big hug, Suzanne
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 11:38 |
Beth
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Re: 6 years widowed & grieving again
Hello Vicky
Yes I have times like this too. It seems to come in waves and when it happens I lose all confidence that I can keep going. Its such a long long time to have been living this new life and no-one wants to see how miserable I can still be after all these years.
The expectation that time heals has always puzzled me.
Its a long time that I have been putting on the I`m ok face to the world, trouble is that the more time passes, the more people think everything is ok.
There seems to be a general belief that the grieving process lasts around two to three years.
Cant imagine where the figure came from.
I know I will cheer up a bit when the spring comes and I can be outside in the sunshine more.
xxx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 13:01 |
Vivienne Washington
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Re: 6 years widowed & grieving again
Hi Vicky,
I can empathise with you. I am widowed 4 years and am feeling really isolated and disconnected from my friends who have husbands and socialise together. I am up and down emotionally and can easily feel overwhelmed, sometimes i think my friends do not know what to say and do want a constant reminder of their own mortality. Being a single parent now, juggling a career leaves me tired...when i reflect, i am grateful for the positives in my life and know i will continue to heal in my own time.
Take care and comfort from support on this site, it's helped me alot over the last 4 years.
Viv xx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 22:42 |
sue ab
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Re: 6 years widowed & grieving again
My husband died suddenly too. Feels like you're going along one path where all is clear and suddenly without warning you're in this new life for which you've had absolutely NO preparation.
Even now I sometimes have this sensation of sick disbelief and that often leads to tears and sometimes a few days of feeling down.
Iguess it's all normal but hard to admit to.
Good to hear from 'oldies' from time to time.
Sue x.
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 19:31 |
Kerry
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Re: 6 years widowed & grieving again
Just wanted to say thank you so much for posting. I am at four years and still experience very intense episodes of grief on a more regular basis than even I would care to own up to, lol! - I think even if we have very active social lives, it is easy to feel isolated, just by the very nature of our experience and the reluctance of others to be reminded of something that they too perhaps fear happening at some point in their lives. Wishing everyone much comfort and good times ahead, and just to say how good it is to be so honest and kind with each other, too. Really good post, thank you for sharing.
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 21:42 |
