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Judi
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Hello to all roll call
Hello
I come and go here on Merry Widow and thought it would be good to see who we all are and where we are
So Judi (now 50) lost David whe we we both 46 in September 2008 to SCAD (sudden cardiac artery dissection ) when he was out cycling.
I live just outside York.
Just finished teacher training and started a two term contract last month.
Judi x x
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 09:04 |
sam
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hello judi
i lost my hubby 11.5 weeks ago, he was killed on his way home from work by a driver who 'didnt see him'
he was 42, i am 39 (40 in march) we had been together since our teens, 23 years in total. this year would have been our 20th wedding anniversary
we have 2 boys 18 and 20 years.
i live in lincolnshire
sam xx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 09:13 |
Laura e
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Hi, im laura (33) lost my hubby phil in october hed just turned 30 to a brain tumour.
Wed been together 10 years and married for just 2 of those. No kids, no job, no idea what im doing!!!
I live in sedgley near wolverhampton in the west midlands.
Xxxxx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 09:30 |
Anon
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Hi Judi - my husband died suddenly 4 years ago. I am in my 50s with two grown up children, Ilive just outside Oxford.
Gwenx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 09:39 |
gab
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Hi,
My husband was murdered - soon be 3 years ago. He was 56 - I am now 57 strange to be older!
We had been married 20 years, together a lot longer - no kids.
I live in Scotland.
I don't give out much more personal info than that because I am paranoid about the media - not because I don't trust my fellow MWs.
Regardless of circumstances, the loss is the same.
take care xx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 09:41 |
Sammyjane
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Hi Lost my mark it will be 5 months on thursday ( cant believe that !) . We have 2 boys 11,13 I am 37 MArk was 42. together 20 yrs married 16. He suffered sudden heart failure while at a game with my son , fortunately my son wasnt with him when it happened.
miss him lots but love him loads.
Lancashire
Big hug
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 11:17 |
Claire
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Hello, stuck for words for tears this morning -
Pete passed last October after 18 months illness
fighting two cancers, one treatable, one terminal, he was a truly lovely person, it was a cruel illness, only 55, me 56, we had so wanted to grow old together. Miss him, Love him. heart broken, Claire
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 11:37 |
TraceyH
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Hi I am Tracey I live in Oldham Lancashire.
I lost Paul aged 53 i am 45 on Sept 28th 2011 so 16 weeks ago. He died of cardiac arrest in ICU. It all happened in the space of 2 weeks, ill, hopsitalised, dead..so massive shock..I thought I was taking him to hospital to get better, not to go to sleep and never wake up.
I work for a newspaper in the classified section. I have 2 kids aged 20 and 15, 2 german shepherds and one cat.
I am coping better than at the beginning but ts still hard and i will love and miss Paul forever
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 11:42 |
Sarah P
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I'm Sarah P, I lost my husband august last year to stomach cancer which had metatised to his lungs. He was only 48, I'm angry at my old GP for letting him down, but have no one here to help me fight his case. I live in Smethwick in the West Midlands. Sarah P
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 12:18 |
Jenny K
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I am Jenny, aged 62 and living in Torquay.
I lost Ken, the love of my life, to stomach cancer in July 2006. There is not a day goes by that I don't miss him and wish he was back with me now.
I have 2 sons, 2 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren who sadly will never know their wonderful great grandad.
love to all on this sad road
Jenny K
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 12:33 |
Cass
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Hello, I'm Cass. I lost my darling husband Ken August 9th 2011.
The hospital sent him home from A&E; saying his heart was fine. He was re-admitted a week later after suffering badly at home. It was too late to save him and he died of heart failure 9 days later. The failure to treat him when he first went to A&E; was a death sentence. The damage was being done to his untreated condition and there was no going back.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 12:33 |
Lyn Smith
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Hi I'm Lyn
I lost my husband Ken, 26 September 2011. He had lung cancer that metatised to brain cancer. We were together for 36 years. He was 53 when he passed away. We have 2 children 25 and 28 years old. Loved him all my life and will love and miss him forever.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 13:03 |
fen
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so sad to see so many new names- i lost my husband of 24years May 15th 2011. It was totally unexpected heart failure. He was 48 i am now 46 we have a 13yr old daughter and live in worcestershire
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 13:28 |
G
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Hi
I'm Gill and lost my husband 11 weeks ago today, today is his 36th birthday. He had a brain tumour aged 9 and was free of cancer for over 25 yrs. then last summer he started with dizzy spells. Various tests showed nothing. The first scan to show tumours was taken on 12th oct. By the end of that month we knew it was terminal and we lost him on 20th November. He was all but paralysed with it, and so a blood clot on his lung finally released him.
We were married 4.5yrs and have two little children. Our eldest has just turned three and our youngest is now 17mths. I'm still in shock from both the horror of what happened to him, and the situation I find myself in. I am sad, lonely, afraid.
It's a long journey.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 13:49 |
Hazel P
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Hi, not been posting for wee while, was feeling stronger and more positive but then WHAM, feel like day one again....
Anyway I lost my OH almost 8 months ago after being diagnosed 8 months previously with an incurable GBM Brain Tumour. Wish I could say that things get better but going by this last week...no they don't. Sorry am a bit vague, but would have to start a new topic really
Love to all of you here
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 14:16 |
Jan D
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Hi Jan D.Living nr Cambridge.
Darling husband Martin died 16 weeks ago from SADS. Married 24 years. 3 fab kids 22,20,18
Hello to all and thanks for the support and understanding I have had.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 14:26 |
Faye
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Hello all
First time site visit, first post.
My darling husband Andy (34) passed in April 2010 of endocarditis and septicaemia. He had heart valve replacement surgery in sept 09, but never truly fully recovered. Was taken into hospital with a slight infection, no one seemed to know what was wrong but within 24 hrs it all changed and he passed 4 days after being admitted.
We had been together 10years, married 2 1/2 years of that, but I felt like I knew him my whole life. Being with him was as easy as breathing.
I live in West Berkshire and have never been more lost.
You'll never know how how much sweetie xx
Fx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 14:42 |
Gill
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Hello I'm Gill, my husband died 26/10/11 after being diagnosed 25/8/11 with acute myeloid leukaemia. He had not been too well for about 3 weeks, throat infection, suspected shingles. Backwards and forwards to see his GP, he'd not been to the doctor for 4 years, unfortunately although he had some blood tests the full blood count was missed and so the correct diagnosis was delayed.
He had 2 rounds of chemotherapy, the first didn't get him into full remission and the second left him with severe brain damage caused by toxicity, just devastating. We met at school and have been married for 29 years, he was 52 and I'm 51. We have 2 children, 25 and 27, and 2 little grandchildren.
I have found so much comfort from reading everyone's posts on this site. Although they are often so sad, it has made me feel that I'm not alone as I often read in the early hours when I cannot sleep. So thank you to all for sharing your stories.xx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 15:07 |
BevF
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Hello Im Bev
Lost hubby Aug 2009 to GBM brain tumour, he was 42yrs old and I was 2mths off my 40th. We had been together 21yrs and have to lovely girls aged 12 and 8. It is a battle every day to live without him.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 16:03 |
Emma
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I'm Emma - in Kent. I'm not posting much at the moment but I do come here to read.
My husband died almost 5 months ago from a sudden heart attack. He was 43. I have two children aged 6 and 11.
My GP called me a hero the other day which I found a bit much, in fact I found it completely wrong. But I guess we are all heros here in some ways.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 17:17 |
Andrea
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I'm Andrea now 42 Tony died July 10 2009 aged 44 from heart failure. He has a (now) 14 year old son Josh who I see sometimes but did see more regularly at the beginning. Fortunately Josh is interested in his friends on weekends then his stepmum which I'm completely ok with as long as he's having fun :)
I live in Los Angeles but originally from Wakefield.
Still very very hard but do find that I am planning more things in life which is a good sign.
xxx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 17:24 |
suze c
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Hello,
My husband died in December 2010. He was working away from home, we were planning to spend more time having a "normal" routine where he did not have to work away much in 2011.
So sad for him that he worked so hard all those years to get the life we wanted and then never got to experience it.
He was 54 and I was 50, our children are now 23,21 and 15. He died of a blood clot in his heart. I miss him every day and will continue to do so forever, but after 13 months am beginning to see that life still has a lot of joy in it.
Hugs to all on this site
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 18:05 |
Clare Redwood
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Hi, I'm Clare and my husband died of cancer at age 45, 5 months ago. He was diagnosed 14 months earlier with penile cancer which apparently is rare. He had several lymph node removal operations with clear scans until this time last year when it metastasised to his lungs and we were told incurable. He never complained and we miss him so much. We have a 10 and 13 year old and I feel totally lost.
C x
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 18:18 |
AnnaJ
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Hello , I'm Anna and I lost my darling husband on 30/5/08 to renal failure aged 54. he put up a he'll of a fight.
. I'm 52 now . We have one daughter who lives abroad. I live in Nottingham .
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 19:24 |
Nicky
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Hi all, i'm Nicky 51 next week and Stu was 52 when he died 6 months ago from stomach cancer which had spread. He fought so hard for 17 months. We have 3 kids, 19, 25 and 28 and they are the reason i'm still plodding on . We would've been married 30 years 6 weeks after he died and i've been with him since i was 17 and cannot imagine being with anyone else. Ever. I have found a lot of support and comfort reading through everyones sad stories - we all like compant in our misery ! xxx
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 19:33 |
Sandra S
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Hi Judi,
I lost my husband Garry in October 2011, he was 46 and I am 45.
Garry's death was sudden, a massive heart attack with no warning at home.
We have a daughter, Amy aged nearly 19.
We live near Glasgow
Getting through it one day at a time.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 19:37 |
Gail
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Hi
My husband died 11 weeks ago. He was 35 and I turned 41 yesterday.
He had an auto immune disease but this was under control with medication & hospital visits. At the end of last summer he became very ill and had to have his bowel removed & a liver transplant. It was too much for his body and he caught an infection and died.
We lived in Cyprus and I moved back and I`m currently living with my parents near Glasgow. I have no children and no job and feel a bit lost and scared.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 19:52 |
Sharon (Shadow)
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Hello
I'm Sharon (50 now) from West Berks.
Lost my husband (aged 49) March 2010 4.5 months after diagnosis of bowel cancer. Also developed necrotising fasciitus which he recovered from after surgery and stay in ICU but this robbed him of the chance of any cancer treatment. We were married 27 years and together since school days. Have 3 sons still living at home now aged 20 - 26.
Wishing everyone some peace. x
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 20:01 |
Hazel
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Hello everyone,
I'm Hazel, I lost my truly adored husband 9 months ago.
This is the bit I find really really hard to write 'he took his own life' aged 43 and left me (38) and our 3 boys, 12,10 and 7.
We live in Scotland, and he should be here with us now and I fought really hard to make him better and make him believe he was worthy of us but but but, yea a whole other story.........
anyway please keep supporting each other and me to please
love
Hazel
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 21:29 |
John C
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Hi. My wonderful wife died from bowel cancer 20 months ago. I visit here daily and occasionally write something which I think might help someone else as I have found comfort from others' words. This is a wonderful site.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 21:48 |
Amber
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Hi, my name is Amber I lost my husband of 12 year a year ago on, january 28th 2011. He was killed @ the age of 28 in a logging accident caused by a wreckless coworker. He left behind myself and our four daughters under the age of 7 my youngest had her first birthday 5 days before this death.My life stands still with everything going on around me faster then is imaginable.
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 22:30 |
Sarah c
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I lost my husband one year ago to metastatic bowel cancer. He was a smiley fit football playing man.a wonderful husband to me for 20 years and fantastic father to our two children
16 and 14.it has been a difficult few weeks around his anniversary but he is with us alwaysanadromous I am so grateful for the wonderful life we had together. It is so hard trying to be all things to two teenagers and I miss him so much. Trying so hard to look forward and live my life again . Love to all
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 22:34 |
Brenda
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My beloved husband died in October '11 - 15 wks ago. he was diagnosed with Motor Neurone Disease 10 months before and within months he had lost his speech and the use of all but his hands. We were married for 44 years and had been together since our teens. In the last year we were never apart as I was privilaged to care for him at home. He was the love of my life and I miss him more than I am able to say. He gave me two wonderful daughters and six grandchildren. I see him in their eyes and smiles.
I take comfort from reading the positive messages on MWs - thank you
Posted on 05/02/2012 at 23:29 |
Lou-Anne
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Hi. My name is Lou-Anne and I live in Bedfordshire. I lost my wonderful partner on the 19/10/2011. He had just turned 54 and I am 50. We were together for 12 happy years. He was in good health but suffered a catastrophic stroke (AVM) and was in a coma for a week before the doctors told us that there was no hope of him recovering. He was a fantastic step- dad to my triplet daughters, 20 years old, and was the love of my life. I feel empty, lost and lonely without him. Thank goodness for this website where we can share our stories and support one another. Love to you all x x x
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 00:29 |
Leanne
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Hi I'm Leanne - haven't been on for a while but was feeling reflective tonight. I lost my hubby rich in October 2011, he had been ill for a couple of months and died in ITU just 2 days after being admitted to hospital. Post mortem revealed he had a rapid and aggressive bowel cancer. Rich was just 29, I'm 28 and we have a little girl who has just turned 1. It's been a crappy and challenging 4 months but I've come a long way already, when you are so low the only way is up, right?!?! X
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 00:47 |
Leanne
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Forgot to say I'm in north Warwickshire/west midlands area!
Leanne xx
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 00:49 |
Marnie
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I lost Eric (38 years old) on November 29 2011 from melanoma cancer that had spread to his pancreas and liver. He was diagnosed late September 2011. Dying wasnt part of the plan. No one told us there was nothing thet could do until 4 days before he passed.
We have been together off and on since we were 13 years old & been married for 14 yrs with 3 beautiful children (14,13, & 12). So far these last few weeks have been the worst. I think I just realized he's not coming back & my heart is broken.
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 02:30 |
Dawn the frog
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hello everyone
I'm an oldie on here now. My husband died on 31st March 2005 at the age of 44. He lost a short battle with bowel cancer.
Our wonderful boys are now 24 and 21 and a constant reminder to me of him.
Since that awful day I have passed my driving test, moved house, moved town, got a wonderful new job and remarried. Life will go on.
Take care all
Dawn
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 07:47 |
Claire b
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Hello everybody. I haven't posted for a while.
My husband died from a cardiac arrest in October. He was52. We were married for 27 years and have 3 daughter's ,26,21and 19. One is getting married in July and my husband would have been so proud. I live in the Scottish borders and i am so sorry that we are all part of this group. Xx
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 08:54 |
May
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I Lost my husband on the 10th November 2011, from Kidney Cancer. He was 39 we had been together 13yrs and married 5. No children, but we tryed. He was wrongly diagnosed for over 2yrs and then diagnosed in August with a tumour the size of a melon on his kidney. By the time they operated it had spread!?.......he sufferd it was so very cruel and i am totally destroyed!......WHY????........
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 11:24 |
Sarah M
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Hi,I lost Alan,my wonderful husband of 28years to an unexpected heart attack on 17th march 2011.He was 50.We have two sons 26 and 21 and a daughhter of 24,they have been such a support to me.Dont think I could have got this far with out my fanily and the support of this site
.Live in north of scotland
Sarah xx
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 11:58 |
Alison W
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Hi i'm Alison (39 now but 40 in 3 days time). Lost my wonderful husband (aged 45) nearly 8 months ago when he suffered a cardiac arrest completely out of the blue while playing cricket.
We have three children now aged 11, 8 and 4 who are keeping me going. It would have been our 10th wedding anniversary in March but had been together nearly 19 years. I live in Warwickshire.
Alison W xx
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 12:02 |
sheena
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Hello to everyone,
I am Sheena and I live south of Glasgow.
My husband Ian died in July 2008 of Cancer, he tripped when he was leaving the school (31/1/2008)and said his leg was really sore, to cut a long story short miss diagnosed for a month, then leg exray said all fine, 2 weeks later after blood tests etc., leg re exrayed when we rushed him to hosptial and leg broken above and below knee, they then did more tests and said he had cancer in both lungs (where it started), liver, left arm, left leg, hip, vertibrae in his back, had cemo etc., but died 17 weeks after diagnosis at home.
We were together for 11 1/2 years (second mariage for me), but were friends for 34 years, my soulmate.
Sheena x
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 12:19 |
Shelley
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Hi all,
Lost my hubby December 2010 after being admitted to hospital with breathing problems. Very let down by our local hospital but that's another story. I'm 55 and hubby was 57. I live in Warwickshire with my two grown up daughters. Was married just short of 30 years and together 35 years.13 months on still finding it very hard to come to terms with.
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 13:07 |
PipsG
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I'm Pips. My lovely man died of a brain haemorrhage in August 2007. He was 47. I was 44. Our daughter was born in October 2007. I also have a son who's now 14, from a previous relationship. His Dad died in May 2003.
I'm in SE/London Kent border.
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 13:15 |
Lyn 2
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Hallo.
I am Lyn. I live in Wales.
My dear husband died in June 2006. He had bowel cancer,which had spread to the liver.
He was ill for 4 years.
We were married for 34 years, together since out teens.
i still can't believe he has gone.
This site is such a comfort.
A big hug to all the newbies on here.
Bless you.
It does get better. Slowly
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 16:43 |
Lyn 2
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oops. It was 2007.
It will be 5 years in April
Seems like only yesterday.
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 17:16 |
wendy
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Hi i'm Wendy(now 38). My husband Mark (38) died Nov 09 from a sudden heart attack know warning, we'd been together nearly 24 years married 11. We've a son (23), daughter (18). We miss him so much.
Live in west yorkshire.
Posted on 06/02/2012 at 19:24 |
