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Topic: Happy Anniversary
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Sarahh
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Happy Anniversary
Four years ago today I was blissfully happy, getting ready to walk up the isle with my beloved Andy, four months into my first pregnancy (all planned that way!).
Andy had already had a malignant mole removed but that was it. The doctors said for most people that was all they'd need, the most treatable (yet one of the most deadly) types of cancer.
3 and a half years later and 3 children in the mix Andy died of this terrible disease. I miss him so much and think about every minute of every day. But if I could turn back time I wouldn't change a thing (except the disease of course). I am so lucky to have been loved by Andy and can't wait to be able to tell the children what a wonderful dad he was.
I am 8 months 'out' and can honestly say that it is true, time is a great healer. I still have difficult days but I can honestly say that I experience joy most days, particularly with the boys (who wouldn't with 18 month old twins!). I know there's still a long way to go but know I can make it, am determined to make it.
I am now having happy thoughts about our wedding day, trying not to think too much about what could have been, just remembering Andy for the fun-loving, loud, gregarious, kind man he was (he had bad bits too by the way!) and how much we loved each other.
I am going out with six wonderful friends tonight for a meal, I don't know what I would have done without their friendship, particularly over the last year, I do feel very lucky to have them.
Wishing you all much love, thanks for listening.
Sarahh x
Posted on 17/07/2008 at 08:53 |
Pauline
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Re: Happy Anniversary
Sarah--what a brilliant, positive post. Andy would be so proud of you and his boys, I'm sure.
Have a wonderful evening with you firends.
Pauline
Posted on 17/07/2008 at 09:00 |
Chris
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Re: Happy Anniversary
You are so brave - I did the same as you - met with friends on what would have been our 18th anniversary and talked about Dave - bought them all some bubbly. I think it is so important to remember the good things and that important dates do not go by unnoticed - that only makes it even more of a waste.
Can't say I am as far on as you are at 8 months - but doing as well as I can - like you most days bring some joy - with my 9 year old. You take care
Posted on 17/07/2008 at 12:43 |
Fiona
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Re: Happy Anniversary
It would have been Graham and mine fourth Wedding Anniversary tomorrow - oops I mean today as it is turned midnight. I have been dreading this day, it is still less than 2 days short of 3 months since I lost him. I have no plans, my closest friend was Graham. His parents are attending the funeral of his uncle today, at the same crematorium. So no meal with friends, probably just lots of crying over Wedding photos and happy memories of the best day of my life. You are lucky to have good friends and well done you. xx
Posted on 18/07/2008 at 01:27 |
Sarahh
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Re: Happy Anniversary
Pauline, Chris and Fiona
Thank you so much for your warm messages. Yesterday did have difficult times but I tried hard to remember all the fantastic things about Andy and our relationship together, that will always make me smile.
The meal with my girl friends was just what I needed too, we didn't manage bubbly but had a couple of g&ts;!!
Love to you all
Sarahh x
Posted on 18/07/2008 at 10:57 |
Sue P
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Re: Happy Anniversary
Sarah,
Sorry I haven't been in contact for a while, my computer is broke, so typing this from work. A lot going on in life at the moment. I will give you a ring.
Just wanted to say thinking of you.
Take care
Sue P
Posted on 18/07/2008 at 12:06 |
louise
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Re: Happy Anniversary
glad to hear your getting out and staying positive like you i was widowed young and only managed to celebrate one wedding anniversary with my husband david but still continue to celebrate further anniversarys with friends as i still feel being married to him is something to celebrate even if it is hard. i tend to visit places that were special to us and still send him a card only now it goes on a helium balloon on any special occasions and also find that this helps our daughter too. hope you dont have too much of a headace as i am sure there were a few bottles of wine opened x
Posted on 18/07/2008 at 13:01 |
A.L
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Re: Happy Anniversary
Hi Sarahh,
My husband also died of malignant melanoma. He had even been signed off after five years of six monthly checks before it spread. It's the most terrible and unstoppable disease. He was 34 and he died on Christmas day so i am seven months on. It would have been our 11th wedding anniversary in May and I travelled to the church where we were married and had a quite few moments.
You sound to be corageous and positive and I hope you had a good evening.
Posted on 18/07/2008 at 23:06 |
