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Topic: counseling
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sherri
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counseling
Hi all sherri here. I started going to grief counseling tonight with my friend who is 3 weeks into this. I have discovered that i am not crazy and it's alright to cry.
She has helped me make a few decisions that i have needed to make. I am going to try to do a little less work in church and take some time for myself.
Hugs to all of you for listening
Sherri
Posted on 24/07/2008 at 03:47 |
Joanne
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Re: counseling
Hi Sherri,
I started counselling in April with Cruse and have been amazed at how it helps.
I was always in the 'what good would that do' camp and felt it was a sign of weakness to have to talk to someone about things but my life's changed, circumstances change and I never thought I'd be sitting here typing on a widowhood website!
I do spend lots of the time crying at the sessions but it is almost as though I save up a week's worth of tears and conversation to speak about for an hour once a week.
I'm so glad that you're finding it useful. Keep us informed of your progress.
Best wishes
Joanne
Posted on 24/07/2008 at 06:54 |
sandra
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Re: counseling
Hi Sherri,
I too have been having councilling and I have found it very helpful too, I think I would have gone mad if I hadn't had it. I am been very lucky with the person I see and I find that I save all my problems up and unload on her instead of my daughter and she always helps to solve them, simple solutions that I think why didn't I think of that! but I don't because my mind is not working propably at the moment.
love
Sandie.
Posted on 24/07/2008 at 09:01 |
Cyra
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Re: counseling
Hi Sherri,
So glad you have found counseling helpful. Thank you for posting it today. I have my first session this afternoon and I am feeling quite nervous about going.
Take care
Love Cyrax
Posted on 24/07/2008 at 10:22 |
linda
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Re: counseling
Well done Sherri, I went to counselling (grief) for 2 years. I went weekly then fortnightly.
I finished a few months ago.
It was the best thing I did to help me heal.
My councellor allowed me space to rant, cry, or just talk and talk.
She never judged me or told me what I should do, she just let me get it out.
Sometimes talking to a stranger who is trained in this is very helpful.
For me it was a godsend, hope it helps you too. Well done.l
Love LInda x
Posted on 24/07/2008 at 11:54 |
Hilary
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Re: counseling
hi,
I agree with all the posts about this. Having been a pull your socks up sort of gal it was a referral by my GP which radically changed my mind about it after 18 painful months. That session per week in the hands of a very skilled person enabled me to cope with everything else and within those 4 walls which at times were awash with tears gave me the strategies to come out of the other end. 18 months of at times was a rough ride and anyone who thinks this is a cuppa and a cosy chat is very misguided. My husband died 6 years ago of chronic alcoholism which took times to deal with(we were separated at the time) and after 18 months of hard work I drew everything to a closure and I felt at a place where I could accept and deal with it all in a fashion. My last visit when I wrapped things up I felt so certain that I had reached the point of being able to manage and get on with it- and he agreed. In fact my then intended( a fellow widowee) had just proposed, and we were married 3 years ago at about the 3 year post pont for us both. One thing that my counsellor said and I remember it to this day was that there are no unthinkable thjoughts. At the time I felt like my chaotic life was like a drawer full of objects. I needed to take them out and examine them, take them apart, put it back together and put it back in the drawer.
Your reactions are normal, it will all take time, good days, some bad days but you will come out the other end. Take care
Posted on 24/07/2008 at 12:48 |
